There are two ways to look at how you celebrate New Years. You’re either the “new year, new me” type or the “why should I set goals and put pressure on myself” type. Personally, I’m a little bit of both. I love to set goals for myself to take on through the year to try to better myself as a human being. However, when things go awry when I’m attempting to do that, I always wonder why I put the extra pressure on myself in the first place. There’s a good reason to set goals and put a little bit of pressure on yourself. If there is no pressure, there is no change. So I suppose if you’re happy with things the way they are (and seriously, let us know the secret if that is the case!), there’s no need for it. But we’re human so……………
I’m pretty sure every single one of us wants to change something in our lives. Whether it’s finding a new job that makes us happier, traveling, being kinder or more patient to people…..whatever the case may be, pressure helps to push us toward being successful with whatever goal we set for ourselves. Have you ever watched “The Biggest Loser?” The personal trainers that work with those people aren’t sweetly telling them to walk a little faster on that treadmill, they’re yelling at them to hustle! Not because they don’t like them, but because they know they’re gonna move more and get to their goal faster. Seriously, how much harder do you think you’re going to work toward a goal if someone is whispering to you versus shouting at you? IE: horse trainers…..am I right?!
If you’ve been reading the blog and following along on social media, you may have already guessed that I’ve made the heartbreaking decision to sell Schatzi. This decision has been a long time coming and I wanted to make sure I was 100% sure it was the right thing to do for me and for her. For the last two years, she’s taught me so much about owning a horse, taking care of one and quite a bit about riding. However, with that being said, I’ve had a lot more frustrating rides on her than good rides and a lot more tears than smiles. This is mainly because she’s just too much of a horse for me to handle right now. I just don’t have the ability to ride as well as I need to to be able to control her. And with that in mind and a lot of prayers, I’ve decided that my main goal for this year is to find her a good home and to hopefully find another horse who is more my speed right now.
One thing that puts my heart at ease a little bit, is knowing that I’m doing her just as big a dis-service as she is doing for me. We’re just not a good match for each other, no matter how much I wanted it and tried to make it so. She needs someone who is more confident in their ability than I am to show her how to be a good horse. The thought of selling her absolutely breaks my heart, but I know it’s the right choice. When you come home from the barn almost every day feeling defeated, it doesn’t do much for the confidence you are trying to build up in yourself. And she could probably go places if she had a confident rider who could show her how to do it.
Schatzi is a good girl. She’s the reason why I started this blog; to be able to look back at things that we’ve accomplished together or learned together, which has been a lot in the last two years. Mostly, she’s taught me that patience goes a long way, not just with your horse, but with yourself. Set goals for yourself this year, and if they don’t go exactly to plan, don’t beat yourself up about it. Just go with it and something good will still come. If you completely miss the mark, that’s ok! You tried and even in the smallest effort, change is possible.
I want to end this week’s post with giving you this thought: A diamond is only a lump of coal that withstood a massive amount of pressure to be turned into a beautiful gem. Without the pressure upon it, it would still just be a lump of coal……
Have a great week!